Couples
One of the most common and painful ambiguous losses is the relational loss of connection with our partner. We get caught in the Drama Triangle leading to resentment, anxiety and depression from a relationship that used to bring so much joy, hope, and love. The good news is that if there is still conflict, it shows me and hopefully you the desire to connect back to the place where you began.
Conflict Guidelines.docxReflective Listening WP.docxBelow is the infinity negative feedback loop that we want to break with having empathy and the courage to be vulnerable. This will take practice slowing down reactive behaviors of defensive/persecutory reactions to more understanding responses showing compassion, caring and curiosity. This creates positive feedback through support without having to be right or fix the issue.
Breaking Negative Patterns.pdfAckowledging defensive patterns.pdfRemember the feelings associated with meeting your partner.
What was the weather like? Were you alone or with friends? Define more of the context and picture the scene. What were you thoughts and feelings as you got to know them? What was something funny that you remember and the laughter? How did your body feel when you met?
When you first met.pdf